Girl Air and Earth, as the legend says, the anger and one of the most archaïques.Source human feelings of tension and animosity, it has always fed the revolts and wars. "Anger is the violence of the weak" is said, however, anger is often associated, rightly or wrongly to violence.Que one is expressive or not, moments of anger are emerging, from the most "strong" for everyone. But why does it fear?
Anger is what?
Comes from Greek khol , "bile", which gave cholera. The anger has
In the Catholic tradition, the anger is one of seven sins capitaux.Chez Buddhists, it is one of the three poisons of the mind with greed, or Trishna, and ignorance or Avidya .
"The Gods are autocrats. They confiscated the immortality and anger. "Only God has the right to be angry" is the wrath of God , a flood of hurricane, sweeping a breath scorching everything in its path ( 2). In the Koranic verses and hadiths , "Anger is an ember that ignited in the heart of the son of Adam. "And virtuous is that which contains it:" The servant who holds his anger to the face of Allah, Allah filled her heart of faith »(*).
More scientifically speaking, anger is like fear, joy, disgust or surprise, governed by two essential anatomical structures: the hypothalamus and limbic system, that is part of what is called the primary brain . And if we say that the animal is lacolère us is that during the anger, the limbic brain (seat of our emotions) needed as opposed to the neocortex: seat of thoughts, language etc. ..
Like any emotion, anger is accompanied by physiological and biological changes: heart rate and blood pressure increase, as the adrenaline which then sends the message to our brain there is a threat and that we must respond. Although it may be a physical threat, most often it is when our self-esteem and our dignity is threatened we react with anger. Being treated unfairly, to be mocked and ridiculed or humiliated often leads to aggression. Ensuing ruminations which, in turn, heighten notrecolère. Anger feeds on anger. We then observe an escalation process where thinking leads to another, which makes us more angry and can quickly degenerate into violence. This abuse can be repressed and turned against itself or it can explode and be turned against others. In one case as in the other, these two extremes can lead to very unfortunate consequences.
This explains, among other things, why an event may cause Benin in a person, already upset and angry, violent and disproportionate reaction. (3)
Anger and violence
Unlike popular opinion, the intense anger does not necessarily lead to violence. It is only in people already predisposed to violence and leads a strong anger. It should be other factors that anger itself to explain the action brutal though, in the violent anger that is often used as a trigger.
dint of involving aggression to violence, it often comes to wanting to repress the expression of anger itself. But this leads directly to a management deadlock and adverse effects that resemble those that would like to avoid: more destructive violence.
It is impossible to eliminate anger, it is part of the repertoire of basic emotional life. This is a normal emotion that, like all emotions, is good in itself. Like other emotions, it is even necessary to adaptive processes that can lead our lives and our relationships with others. Anger exploded
is the opposite of anger channeled, it is still without a target, whether it is a bad target. Presumably, for example, a person who rages against everything and everyone, or that which relieves himself on a scapegoat. One can also mention that explodes for relief, regardless of consequences. It is obvious that these expressions of anger can lead to satisfaction only by accident. (5)
the Upside of Anger
Anger can be compared to impassable walls, obstacles that stand before us and cause our frustration. We are very often the primary responsibility for its presence on our roads, because these walls are erected to himself. It teaches us focus on improving our ability to create multiple solutions. The concepts of self-esteem and respect for others take a leading role in the way we live our internal revolt.
Anger can be lived well and make things happen. However, poorly controlled and poorly lived, it can inflame situations and turn to disaster for themselves and the environment and lead to destructive and disorderly conduct. We are deeply conditioned to sail with many of these situations appear to aggression, lacolère, feelings of injustice or resentment. We can choose never to retaliate when we attack. But we can also choose to develop tools for personal affirmation that we will deal as smoothly as possible with the world around us and improve our relations with those who live near us. (4)
Still further, studies on women with cancer has been shown that life expectancy is greater if they express their anger. During interviews with them, we saw manifest behaviors of rage as a means of survival, and also as a crucial technique that allows these women to gather and recreate links with their own person. ( 6)
Anger and resentment
Resentment is like rancor, the two experiences are organized around a conserved anger. This is not always present to consciousness, but they are referred from time to time, which awakens the animosity.
In addition to this static anger, resentment contains a significant sadness. The latter is however not very apparent, because anger serves as a screen. As the rancor, resentment, anger due to an abortive and applies to an event that is completed. This event may be recent or belong to a distant past.
Unlike the rancor that is mostly static, resentment is an experience that could be called "alive". Indeed, the person who experiences sacolère carefully preserved and will even grow it by returning to his memory the events that have triggered. Sadness, for cons, is ignored as much as possible, as if the feeling could reduce lacolère to which does not give up.
Resentment is also characterized by the fact that it relies on a perceived injustice. It is because of this perception that one who experiences it does not divest sacolère. Do not keep his anger in his eyes would be a way to endorse the unacceptable. In addition, it wishes to prevent the head of this injustice to emerge unscathed from the situation. This goal is often manifested by a search of revenge that has no end.
Also, be aware that resentment is always a choice (informed or not). It is often the easiest option for those who do not know that sacolère could be treated differently. In many cases, this is deliberate, then it serves to keep intact the memory of what has shocked. The choice of resentment
also contains a commitment not to express anger and sadness so complete, direct and with intensity. This is especially the case when encountering the resentment of people that still rubs.
By refusing this expression, we maintain our resentment in our present experience. In other words, we bring unecolère stifled and sadness creeping in our contact with those whom we want.
Most often, resentment is an emotional experience that we want to keep intact. But even more than the resentment, the feeling is poisoning us life. The resentment is rarely central to our experience. Resentment, however, occupies an important place. It is because we want to cultivate as it takes a hand in our current experience. It is also because we want to maintain our link with the past.
In summary, we could say that the resentment we used to maintain the strength of our anger and our emotional connection with a past experience. But at the same time, this fidelity to our anger keeps us in a closed position and sadness while forbidding us any new contact could be restorative. (5)
short,
although it is considered as a negative energy, anger is primarily the instinct of survival which stands in the front of the world, and tends to defend this threatened by us.
and although I consider myself to those that contain their anger evil, I found him an outlet in silence. Rest everyone to use his breath or his pen, to put off, until the brain has not caught fire.
(1) The word comes from the Latin mood Umor , which is itself a word derived from Greek and means liquid
(2) wiképidia
(*) Hadith
(3 ) counseling center and psychological consutlation
(4) Psycho- texts
(5) Red-psy
(6) Women and anger
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